Say "I Do" to Yourself

Whether you're single or married

What vows would you make to yourself?

Do you have the courage to look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and say, I trust you? I love you? Til death do us part?

What vows would you make to yourself?

Self-marriage is a growing trend but it’s little understood. Self-marriage is not about being single, nor is it about being celibate. It’s about committing to yourself through a ritual to love and honor yourself. Self-marriage recognizes the power of ritual–your vows weigh more in your memory when you have a ritual and symbol to remember them.

Each person gets to define the meaning of the self-marriage for her or himself. That makes self-marriage a richly creative and meaningful journey.

I’ve been a pioneer of the self-marriage movement by writing about in my 2004 book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romanticcs and then marrying myself 10 years later at age 40 as a coming-of-age ritual that helped me make concrete personal growth I had been doing for years.

If you want to marry yourself, you are in for a treat. Marrying yourself is a deep, thoughtful, and very fun journey that will have a lasting impact on your relationship with yourself.

If you would like to get support for your self-marriage, there are two ways I help:

A Structured, Guided Personalized Self-Marriage Journey with a Cocreated Ritual. This is the absolute best–seriously. I help you marry you. Through a structured series of coaching calls and playwork for you to complete between the calls, I lead you through the journey of the most important steps of a self-marriage, from the meaning, to the vows, to the engagement, to the creation of the ritual/ceremony, and even your honeymoon. I help you decide how to do it, step by step, who to invite and if possible I will be present for the ceremony in person. And we understand what this means for you and how it will change your relationship with yourself. If this option appeals to you, send me a message by clicking on the button below.

An online course with retreat.  In the future, I will offer a step-by-step online course to guide you through the process of creating your self-marriage. You will get the benefit of the structure and a community of like-minded people who are going through the same process. You may have the opportunity to join for an in-person retreat to be witnessed by me and the others in your commitment. And we’ll have a lot of fun. I will start planning this course based on demand, so if you are interested, sign up here to be counted.