I help you with the big stuff, whether that’s leaving a relationship that is no longer working, getting on track with a new career, opening up to love after being single for a long time, or embracing and truly being OK with being single and valuing yourself. Sexuality is always on the table too.

I help you stay true to yourself, value yourself, and move forward, baby step by baby step.

Here are some stories from clients.

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As a result of working with Sasha, my confidence in myself was sky-high: I changed careers, restarted dating in an open/honest way and I joined a local tango community. I owe much of my new outlook on life and ways of interacting with others to Sasha. I have peace, satisfaction and a true view of my worth. If you are stuck or just can’t get rid of a nagging feeling that your life is moving by without you, Sasha can help.”

Carissa Giblin 

Tampa, Florida

Working with Sasha has been instrumental in huge changes in my life. It has helped me define who I am and what I want. Helped me leave a job and find a new one, helped me have a wonderful long-distance relationship and helped me feel resilient when that relationship ended. It has made me proud of my independence and has made me want to work on my muscles of relationship communication. I am so grateful for the QA movement and the freedoms and confidences it has given me for the past year.”

Megan Cramer 

New York, New York

“Reading your books, visiting your website and taking your classes have been the pitstops of my journey back to my truly me.”

Andreas Mueller 

Germany

“Sasha Cagen gives you the tools to not only understand and appreciate your true essence, but also you learn how to fully access your inner voice which will lead you to the people, places and situations that honor the very best of who you are. I highly recommend her books, classes and coaching if you have felt stagnant, alienated or as if something is missing.”

Paula White 

Chicago

“Thanks to all that I’ve learned with Sasha, I was able to express myself so clearly to my new partner. I finally had the language to verbalize my vision of an interdependent relationship. I met a man who shares that vision and appreciates that I’ve been so honest and upfront and ‘me.’ We connect on fundamental values and that is gold!”

Hilary Davies  

Australia

Sasha practices what she preaches, really diving into learning about her own life and using those experiences to help people change their lives to be more in alignment with who they *really* are. She is adventurous, wise, and willing to be vulnerable in her work and coaching which for me, is HUGE. I don’t really trust people with my personal information who aren’t vulnerable themselves.”

Lindsay Chrisler 

Berkeley, Calif.

“Sasha coached me as I transitioned from a married father of three to single divorced dad. Thrown to the single world, I didn’t want to simply admit defeat in the comfort of a not-so-great relationship. I wanted to figure out a productive way to solve uniquely single issues in a safe and secure environment. Sasha was a great life coach, cheerleader, and singles guru. I found Sasha to be smart, open, and good at checking in with where I really was in an intuitive way, which allowed her to make suggestions to me that helped me make changes and improve my life as I found my single guy feet.

Josh  

Atlanta, GA

I began working with Sasha at a time of transition. I had left my job, run off to live and work at a yoga retreat center. When I returned to the Bay Area, I needed help integrating all that I had learned into a new framework. Sasha guided me with wisdom, compassion, and humor, helping me to continue to make small shifts, set manageable goals, and to practice self-care. I strongly recommend working with Sasha as a life coach. Whether you’re struggling with relationships, languishing in old patterns, or making some major life changes, Sasha has the skills and experience to meet you where you are.”

Ivy 

Oakland, Calif.

I first contacted Sasha because I was trying to get over a broken heart… but that was just the tip of the iceberg. I was struggling with work, dating, amongst other things. Sasha really helped me put everything in perspective. I was really impressed with how Sasha made me think about my life goals. I was amazed to see how important it is to simply articulate a goal and think about the steps that I need to take to achieve that goal. I mean, normally I have a fuzzy feeling and jumble of ideas/emotions that tell me that X maybe, kind of, sort of is possible. Likewise, by articulating the goal and discussing those steps, I have committed myself to actually following through. Sasha is really fantastic, I can’t recommend her enough!!”

Michelle  

Montreal

“’I have worked with a number of coaches, but Sasha is at the top my list. She is intuitive, funny, and wise beyond her years. I decided to work with Sasha when I ended my last relationship, and was trying to find a better way to be “alone” again. I love Sasha’s “Quirkyalone” and “Wet” constructs– her approach is distinctive, modern, passionate. Sasha has developed a unique, bold, and finely tuned blend of psycho-spiritual, intellectual, physical and cultural coaching– and she assigns just the right amount of “homework” to keep you processing and exploring between sessions. Sasha cares about her clients deeply, is responsive, and best of all, the objectives you choose to achieve are met — and in my case– exceeded.”

Carrie

Asheville, NC

Sasha has supported my emotional and creative growth in many ways. We have discussed a wide range of topics including relationships, work-life balance, creativity, nonviolent communication, ambivalence about raising a child, and being authentic. I learned new skills and tools through our sessions, which have been more effective than my previous experiences with talk therapy and life coaching. I have grown significantly through working with Sasha. I highly recommend working one-on-one with her.”

Grace

Berkeley, Calif.

After coaching one-on-one with Sasha, I feel a lot more confident embracing who I am and the idea that being single can be just as celebratory as being in a relationship. (Although I like to think of being single as being in a relationship with myself.) There is no sense in feeling “single shame.” I’m also not settling!

Amanda 

Porltand, OR

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Sasha and I worked together earlier this year, and I’m very grateful I took the opportunity to do so. We talked a lot about relationships/dating; I had specifically sought Sasha out after reading about her Quirkyalone movement. Sasha helped me put a number of thorny issues in perspective, gave me helpful and creative ways of processing experiences and thoughts, and generally proved to be a very supportive ally in helping me move forward. I’d highly recommend working with Sasha!.”

Kristin

Washington, DC

“I was coming out of a long marriage with an incompatible partner and I was confused about the importance of acknowledging and owning your sexuality. I had a typical English reserved feeling toward sexuality; everything is very unspoken. I had the feeling sexuality had the potential to impact all areas of my life, including my self-esteem, but I wasn’t sure how. Within my circle of friends I didn’t have people I could talk to. Through working with Sasha, it’s almost like I’m not living by my previous values. I learned how good sex made me feel for the next week, about my body and myself.

Now I listen to my intuition, I have the confidence to wear things I previously would not have worn. I became more aware of my own sexuality with clothes, candles, low lighting, now if I am feeling low, I come home from work, take a deep breath, see what makes me feel comfortable so I have lots of lights and pretty lights and light the candles and put the aromatherapy and oils.

Sasha seemed to very easily pick up on what I was saying. She brings structure and checked in with me a lot about what was most important to discuss. I think Sasha has an ability to tune into people and help them understand themselves. The top thing I learned by working with Sasha is to value sex. I’m having the best sex of my life.

Jeannette

London

“I’ve had vaginismus for a few years which caused me to have negative feelings about sex. I tried working through it on my own with a step-by-step self-help guide, and with doctors, but hit a block when it came to desire and wanting to attempt intercourse or any sexual intimacy. Avoiding sex with my partner of seven years became a habit. I was feeling like something was really wrong with me; my libido was gone. I started my first call with Sasha wanting to feel turned on so I could have a healthy sexual relationship with my fiance.

Quite quickly Sasha made me feel comfortable and asked me questions to help me understand myself. I learned so much about myself. Coaching with Sasha makes you face these things head on and I was definitely at a place where I needed someone to hold me accountable and help me figure things out. Working with Sasha on my sexuality and sensuality, and my vaginismus, has been enlightening, interesting, fun, emotional, useful, exciting, therapeutic. I am experiencing pleasure that I didn’t know was possible.

My partner and I are having the best sex of our 7-year relationship and we are getting married having a healthy sexual relationship. I know I wouldn’t have come this far without working with Sasha.

Laura 

Nova Scotia, Canada

““When I first started working with Sasha, I was a few months out of a serious relationship and terrified of being alone. I was scared that I wasn’t going to have the opportunity to have my own family (I recently turned 30). Now, I’m a lot more happy and comfortable in my single life. The biggest epiphany that stands out is the one I had about vulnerability. I’m understanding that vulnerability is beautiful and a strength, not a weakness. I also came to an understanding that I need to stick up for myself more. Working with Sasha was great! Very enlightening and helpful.”

Amanda 

New Jersey

I needed a new job/change in career, and so I began working with Sasha. I had never worked with a career counselor before, so I was a little leery at first and wasn’t sure how she could help. During our first phone conversation, Sasha asked me to define what I wanted to achieve during our time together. We came up with a list, 3 months later every goal on that list was achieved and I landed a new job in industry I was trying to break into.  Sasha not only helped me achieve my goal, but gave me a great set of tools that will continue to help me along my career path. If you are looking for a change, but don’t know where to start or what to do, Sasha would be a valuable resource.

Elsa 

Watertown, MA

“Sasha, You’ve been on my mind so much in the last two weeks. On February 4th, I got married. To the man I met right at the end of our Quirkytogether course. Bill and I have dated on and off for two and a half years. The OFF times were always about logistics and societal shoulds. And yet we would always be drawn back together. Our relationship has always been solid. The logistics, questionable. We finally decided to move the relationship to the CENTER and allow the how-tos (where to live, etc.) to move to the periphery. So, we are maintaining our own homes and lives AND we are married. I feel like I’m getting everything I ever wanted!! Love!

Barbara Berry 

Florida

I did a one-on-one coaching program with Sasha and walked away with the goals and intentions I had set at the beginning of the program achieved. Sasha’s approach is practical, empathetic and pushes you to not only realize what you want but also opens your mind to new concepts and paths. The program is well organized with structured Skype calls, emails and elements customized for my specific goals. I found that the coaching positively impacted all areas of my life – relationships, professional and with myself. Overall my experience with Sasha was extremely rewarding and I would recommend her coaching programs to anyone who is considering.

Amy 

Trumbull, CT

“When you’re in any major life transition, Sasha can help. She has many clever, practical solutions to get you through it — most of all — she cares. And she has a gift for finding all the blind-spots. No person can see their own; it takes an experienced, intuitive to shed light on old habits that get in the way. Sasha read me like a friend who’s known me for years. After working with her for just a few months I’ve gone from feeling very lost and overwhelmed with my job search, to finding a whole new approach, and a new direction for my path.”

Petra 

Brooklyn, NYC

I’d done therapy in the past, but working with Sasha felt more actionable and relatable. Now, I’m actually dating, which is completely new for me. I’m meeting new people more frequently, too. If you are considering working with Sasha, DO IT (all capital letters and tons of emphasis)! You will see so much change in a short amount of time. Sasha has a gift for helping people quickly realize what they want and why they’re holding themselves back from getting it.”

Lauren

San Francisco

Let’s see what’s possible when we work together.

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