Hi! I’m Sasha Cagen.

I’m an author, an entrepreneur, and a life coach for women (and a few sensitive men) who want to stay true to themselves, never settle, and have fun.

Since 2000, I’ve been helping women and men find happiness within themselves through my quirkyalone movement. That movement empowers both single and partnered people to love themselves.

My work as a coach, writer, and movement-builder has been featured in dozens of media outlets, including CNN, NPR, BBC, The New York Times, USA Today, and The Wall Street Journal. 

My book Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics launched a movement by putting a new spin on singledom for people who prefer to be single rather than settle. Quirkyalone is for for people who cherish their solitude, want to find a mate, but who would rather be alone than settle for just anyone.

My second book To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us provides a window into our souls via our to-do lists and the stories behind them. This book grew out of To-Do List magazine and it’s a book any glazomaniac (list lover) should own.

I’ve been in South America for much of the last five years where I have been focused on taking a bite out of life.

I like to invent stuff and I have a lifelong love affair with creativity. Among my recent creations are the Tango Adventure in Buenos Aires, which allows you to learn about yourself and healthy relationships through the metaphor of tango, and pussywalking, which helps you (if you’re a woman!) tap into the natural power of your sexuality.

I’m at work on a new memoir called Wet. It’s my own tale of healing sexual trauma through experiences of sensuality and it’s also about letting go of the plan and creating my own turned-on life as a woman in ways I never, ever could have predicted.

This book is on the way–I’m currently finishing a second draft. The book will be more than juicy. It will be wet.

As a writer, I believe in telling true stories well and sharing new and liberating ideas with you. I love what Anais Nin wrote in her book In Favour of the Sensitive Man: “Why one writes is a question I can answer easily, having often asked it myself. I believe one writes because one has to create a world in which one can live.”

As a coach, I believe that you have answers inside you and my job is to help you unearth them. I also play alongside you as a creative co-strategist for your life.

I believe in honesty, authenticity, the power of vulnerability, self-love, love, compassion, creativity (of course!), healthy sexuality, pleasure and fun (definitely), and the power of people coming together for a common cause.


Origin of name: My formal name is Alexandra Cagen, but most people–or everyone, really–calls me Sasha. Sasha is a Russian nickname for Alexandra and I’ve got Ukrainian in my roots.

Hometown: I grew up in Cranston (aka Creaaannnnston), Rhode Island, a suburb of Providence, just an hour from Boston.

Education: Cranston High School East (a public high school), then Amherst College (where I was quite unhappy), then Barnard College (where I was happier), then the school of life in entrepreneurial Silicon Valley and writerly San Francisco, then CTI coach training and the school of life in Buenos Aires

Current city: Buenos Aires. Oakland, California and Providence, Rhode Island are also homes for me.

Where I discovered tango: Cali, Colombia, the world capital of salsa, oddly enough!

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