Never settle

I won't let you!

What if you could shift “there’s something wrong with me” to “I’m not settling”?

My work helps you own your quirky self with books, coaching + personal growth vacations to keep you on the quirkyalone/together path . . .

Sasha’s work has been featured in:



A Creative Alternative to Therapy

I help women with life transition, getting over the fear of being alone (forever), dating, relationship, divorce, and career change. My specialty is working with quirkyalone women.

Personal growth vacations

My coaching methodology includes designing real-world adventures. Come to Buenos Aires to learn tango with me to reconnect with your sensuality and grow your confidence. Marry yourself with my help. Stretch outside your comfort zone by taking risks–with support.

Required reading for quirky people

My books will make you feel like less of an oddball and maybe even proud to be you. Quirkyalone is a cult favorite that’s required reading for anyone who has been single longer than a year. To-Do List is for list lovers. I’m at work on a memoir called Wet. You heard right. Yes. Wet.

“Sasha Cagen gives you the tools to not only understand and appreciate your true essence, but also you learn how to fully access your inner voice which will lead you to the people, places and situations that honor the very best of who you are. I highly recommend her books, classes and coaching if you have felt stagnant, alienated or as if something is missing.”

Paula White 


“Sasha Cagen is up to something that could be as important for women (and men) as The Feminine Mystique was years ago: We aren’t just halves of couples; we are distinct individuals—as complete and potentially happy alone as we are with our families and lovers.”

Barbara Ehrenreich,

best-selling author of Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting by in America and Bright-Sided How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America 

Sasha Cagen is something of a hero for the growing ranks of singletons who are learning to feel secure with their status, and she is often their public face. She appears frequently on popular national television and radio programs to explain that going solo is a viable, legitimate, and not necessarily lonely way to dwell in a city—a point that is surprisingly controversial given how many people are already living alone.”

Eric Klinenberg 

Sociology Chair at NYU + author of Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone

Working with Sasha has been instrumental in huge changes in my life. It has helped me define who I am and what I want. Helped me leave a job and find a new one, helped me have a wonderful long-distance relationship and helped me feel resilient when that relationship ended. It has made me proud of my independence and has made me want to work on my muscles of relationship communication. I am so grateful for the QA movement and the freedoms and confidences it has given me for the past year.”

Megan Cramer 

New York, New York

“Thanks to all that I’ve learned with Sasha, I was able to express myself so clearly to my new partner. I finally had the language to verbalize my vision of an interdependent relationship. I met a man who shares that vision and appreciates that I’ve been so honest and upfront and ‘me.’ We connect fundamental values and that is gold!”

Hilary Davies  


“Reading your books, visiting your website and taking your classes have been the pitstops of my journey back to my truly me.”

Andreas Mueller 


“I cannot WAIT to read Wet! I think you’re doing such a great service for women, reminding us that we have the right to live a turned-on life!”

Yancy Lael 

Ottowa, Canada