Letting go of your assumptions about how love works

Today I’m blogging over at Scoutie Girl, “Creative Life with Character” and musing about the assumptions I’ve had about love. In particular, I always feared that being in a committed relationship would mean the death of my creative life. I feared motherhood even more. That fear was what I call a limiting belief, and it feels good to name it. Naming a limiting belief is the first step in letting it go. Ahhhh.

Read the full story over here.

What are your assumptions about love?
One of the most liberating things we can do is take an assessment of our beliefs. And then challenge those assumptions. What assumptions do you hold about being in a relationship?

In our upcoming class Quirkytogether 101 we are going to do this collectively: what are our assumptions? What kind of relationship would we create if we had a magic wand and total freedom to make it up? A relationship were we really get to be our full selves. How would we like it to work? We have so much more power to create the lives we want than we often realize. But first we need to give ourselves permission to dream, imagine, and know that we are awesome just as we are. As people who love and need our “me” time and our independence whether we are single or partnered.

I’m super excited about this class and the sense of possibility we are going to open up in life and love together.

Check out this page to learn more about this weeklong class, which starts in just two weeks on July 27! We’re talking self-love as much as we’re talking about romantic love.

See you in Quirkytogether 101! Click HERE to get all the details!

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One comment on “Letting go of your assumptions about how love works
  1. Sue Vittner says:

    Thank you Sasha for sharing this about limiting beliefs. Since your term, quirkytogether, I have been feeling more and more empowered in my relationship. My partner, Todd, is an extreme Quirky-alone, and I would say I’m a medium QA!! So, in this relationship we are continually designing and checking in with each other about how we can both support each others freedom and creativity. I am really looking forward to deeper explorations in the class.

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